Something you miss
When she visited me in Texas, 2010
I miss my best friend. I’ll call her Pooh. We met in 1990 on a playground at the first day of my new school. That was third grade. We’ve been friends ever since.
We have been through some shit together. We were both teased mercilessly in grade school. I think that is what cemented our bond. As we got older, we got in trouble together. Summer of 1996. That’s all I will say, and she will know EXACTLY what I mean.
My first wedding…to Sunshine’s Dad, 2004
She was the maid of honor at my wedding to Sunshine’s dad. She was there the day I gave birth to Sunshine. She babysat exactly one time, and I’m pretty sure that Ms. Colic 2006 kept Pooh and her eventual husband kid free for a few years.
When I decided to leave in 2009, Pooh was in the middle of planning her wedding. I was to be the matron of honor. Instead of turning into bridezilla and having a fit that her matron of honor was moving 1500 miles away, she told me that I needed to do what was right for myself and my daughter. She was also instrumental in helping me make the ultimate decision to leave and to remain in Texas. She had some info about my ex that was proof of infidelity. She didn’t tell me when she first found out about it because I had just had Sunshine and I was no shape emotionally or physically to deal with that kind of information.
I remember going over to her house, absolutely livid about what was going on in my life. She calmly sat me down, explained what she knew, when she knew and told me that she would love me no matter where I was. She probably saved my life. If I would have gone home to my ex, confronted him about what I knew, I may not be here right now.
I returned to Pittsburgh for her wedding. With the man that is now my husband. And it was magical.
Her wedding, 2009
Since that time, she has had two babies. I got married (again), and she made the trip down here to be at my wedding. She was the only person from out of town to do so. No one in my family (including my brother) or my husband’s family made it. Her being there with me was so special.
We have remained close despite the fact that we live so far from each other. We talk about once a month, but we text, FB, all of those things. And every time we’re together its like nothing has ever changed. She knows me so well, she knows my family, my husband. Its the kind of friendship that she has no problem telling me when I’m wrong, when I need to chill out, when I need to look at things a different way.
With our baby girls, 2013
When I was up in Pittsburgh this past summer, I got to see a lot of her, and meet her kids. I swear, their cuteness rivals Sunshine’s. We cried when we had to leave each other.
So I miss my Pooh. I would love for her to move down here one day. Or have the funds to visit more often.
We were supposed to take a cruise for the 20th anniversary of our friendship in 2010. But she was preggers at the time.
So maybe it will be for our 25th. Next year. Wow. I’m old.